So you just met this amazing girl, you had a great time with her, and you even got her phone number…Now what? You’re going over and over in your head about what to text a girl…Maybe you even start texting…Then think to yourself, no that’s not good enough and start deleting it… Or even worse you hit the send button… Well my friends, I can tell you I’ve certainly been there before, and with these few principals to keep in mind when sending the first text, not knowing what to do can be a thing of the past….
SENDING OUT THAT FIRST TEXT
Ok so first let’s go over some common mistakes… A short list of what NOT to do…Shall we?
- Hey what’s up?
- Hey! remember me, its (name) from(insert bar/club/coffee shop etc.. here)
- Hey, had a good time last night…Want to hang out with me?
Basically any of those or any variation of those should NEVER be the first text!! Now let’s look at why…
- They’re boring, and they say nothing about your personality.
- Every other guy texts them the same thing, so it doesn’t set you apart from the rest of them.
- Most importantly, they don’t evoke any kind of reaction from her or compel her to respond so you just inadvertently kill any attraction you built with her.
Now you’re probably thinking to yourself, ok so what works?…Well there’s three things you need to have in order to make your first text effective…
- It needs to engage her emotions, causing her to re-affirm her attraction to you
- It needs to set a fun, playful tone for the interaction to come
- It needs to compel her to respond
If you can accomplish all of these in your first text you can pretty much guarantee she will not only respond positively but be much more willing to move forward with you. Let’s take a look how each element works and how to incorporate them together in your first text…
Engaging her emotions-The easiest way to do this is by referencing a topic from your conversation together that you connected on or that was very memorable. This will cause her to recall that interaction which, in turn, will cause her to feel those same emotion she felt at that point – the very emotions that are the foundation of her attraction to you (and you to her as well).
Compelling her to respond- It can’t just be any old question or statement otherwise “Hey what’s up?” would be an effective first text. And you already know why text like that don’t work. They are typical, boring and every other guy is sending her the same text. Yes they may occasionally get a response but they wont build attraction or move her closer to wanting to meet up with you again. So what kind of question do you ask? Well since you asked I feel compelled to respond. Simply take a basic question and re-word it so it becomes fun and playful.
EXAMPLE
“What’s up?”
becomes
“What kinda mischief are you causing today?”
Setting a fun playful tone-If you haven’t figured it out yet, fourth grade humor is the underlying theme for most of your text messages, including the initial interaction. Lighthearted, super-silly jokes win women over. This causes her to constantly associate positive emotions with you. You can accomplish this by using many of the tools presented in this system: nicknames, role-playing, teasing, etc. And, as always, remember that the way you word things has a dramatic effect on how it is perceived (eg. dancing vs bust a move).
SENDING OUT THE FIRST TEXT
Ok so now, with your phone firmly clutched in your hands, you’re ready to send out the first text! And if you want even more examples for first texts, and the complete system for going from first text to best first date ever, check out B4UTXTHER!
